Have you ever wondered what 'The Asking' is all about in a wedding ceremony? This is the part in a wedding movie where the priest asks 'will you, Jane take John to be your lawfully wedded husband, will you love, honour and respect him, in poverty and in wealth, in sickness and in health, until death does part you?"
The words can be very similar to the vows you make to each other - so how is The Asking any different?
One way of looking at it is that by being asked, in public and officially, of whether you will promise to do these things (such as love, honour and respect etc. the other person). You are offered a final moment of reflection, of asking yourself whether this is, indeed, what you want to do. Then - in responding with an 'I do' or 'I will' you state your intention very openly and firmly. This now sets the scene for actually making the promise that you have said you would by speaking your vows.